House mates

So, I am currently still living in my university house. This year, I have realised that I do not like one of my flatmates.

He ... well... he is... I guess, a  nice person. However, he does have his issues. In particular, he is controlling os other people. Very controlling.

He is always telling his girlfriend what she can and cannot do. Including when she should stop eating, whether she can go outside. He makes a lot of jokes about how she is "his woman." He cooks and cleans, yes, but he also tells her when she should. He acts as if the things that he needs to do, is far more important than her because he is the computer scientist going to make money whereas she only got a 1st in her English degree.

He is nice to her a lot, but damn, he can be a bit of s doshbag similarly.

The thing that gets me is that he is unaware. He isn't aware that actually, he is hurting her.

I have had many showdowns with him this year telling him to treat her with respect.

It is just a bit frustrating stuck with them in the lockdown. She needs to be treated better and I know that it is not my place, but when I am there, I have have have to demand that he treats her better. It is a toxic place to be in, but I spent most of my childhood feeling like I was the victim and ... I just cannot stand for it.